Dealing with Stress God’s Way

Philippians 4:4-9

  1. Ways to deal with different types of Stress in our daily lives:
    1. PERSONAL STRESS:  alarm clock, kids to school, the maze of everyday stress!
    2. Limit your focus to the concerns of the day.
    3. Matthew 6:34  “Take therefore no thought for the morrow:  for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself.  Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.”
      1. Don’t worry about what we have to do tomorrow.  Focus on what is going on right now in front of us today.
        1. This doesn’t mean that we don’t prepare for tomorrow!  We still have homework, deadlines, etc. but it is how we manage it and keep it in perspective.
        2. This speaks of things that are out of our control, things that we may not yet clearly see an answer or solution to.  Don’t get bogged down.
    4. Keep reminding yourself of the supernatural nature of the Christian life!
    5. Romans 8:31  “If God be for us, who can be against us?”
      1. Our resources are limited – God’s resources are NEVER limited!
      2. We never once, as a believer, will wake up in the morning and face the world alone.
        1. Even at our worst backslidden state, there is still an air of Grace that surrounds the child of God.
        2. All the more reason that we should keep our lives clean and ready to serve!  To know that He loves us that much!
    6. When we do face bad times, rough spots, trials, catastrophes – remind yourself that this is normal.
    7. I Peter 4:12,13  “Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you:  But REJOICE, inasmuch as ye are partakers of Christ’s sufferings; that, when his glory shall be revealed, ye may be glad also with exceeding joy.”
      1. We all have different bad times, low spots, etc.  The common denominator is that it upsets our security, lifestyle, routine, etc.  We must remember this is NORMAL.
    8. MARITAL STRESS:  Yep…  you know we have to talk about it!  Did you know it now takes 600 more hours per year to maintain the same stand of living today that we’ve grown accustomed to in the last 30 years due to the extremely busy schedules of life today?
    9. We must have compassion.  We need to put our self in our spouse’s shoes.
      1. Jesus had compassion and is our role model.
      2. Funny way to see it =  WWGD?  What would Grandma Do?
        1. Think of the love and compassion a Godly Grandmother shows.
        2. Her focus is always on the grandchild- full of compassion!
        3. We should show that same compassion of a Grandmother to our Spouse.
    10. We must compromise with each other. 
      1. Not compromising Biblical truth- but self interest.
      2. Matthew 5:41  “And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain.”  We should be willing to do for our spouse AND MORE what we are willing to do for someone else.
      3. Finances are a HUGE stressor in a marriage!  Be smart with the money and resources that God has given you.
      4. Recognize that one of you will be better with the finances than the other.
      5. Guys- not every night is date night.  Ladies- not every night is sappy movie night!
          1. When an issue arises we should ask:  “Is the difference worth the price of peace between us?”
            1. Honor each other’s “domains”
              1. Man with the “manly” things.  He picks out the BBQ!
              2. Ladies with the things of the home.  She gets to pick the furnishings!
            2. Old saying:  “When momma ain’t happy ain’t nobody happy”
            3. Try to honor and respect each other in every decision our the marriage.
  • When confrontations must occur- LOVING confrontation is the Biblical way.
  • Ephesians 4:15  “speaking the truth in love”
    1. It takes BOTH elements –
      1. Willing to speak the truth to each other based on God’s Word.
      2. Speaking the truth IN LOVE
    2. If the conversation is difficult, serious, etc.
      1. Be willing to pray right up front together and ask the Spirit for guidance.
      2. If things get frayed in the middle- stop and pray some more!
      3. No “missile” prayers when praying together!  “God help her to do what is right”; “God help him to see he is wrong”
      1. FAMILY STRESS:  Yep – there’s additional stress when you add kids.  Did you know?????
          1. Expect added stress with the first child…and the second…and the third…..
            1. First child – scared of people holding it, scared of it catching a disease, etc.
            2. Your house is doomed.
              1. You will find toys in the strangest places.
              2. Desitin will come out of that….or NOT.
            3. There will most likely be a “booger wall”  Go ahead and prepare.
              1. The house will never be that clean again.
              2. There will be things broken!  Price of kids and parenting.
            4. A dare from a sibling is basically a warning something is about to cost you money.

      2. When children enter their teens, the parents are entering midlife so family stress reaches its peak at this time.
      3. If we have taught our kids to love, honor, and obey it will pay off during these times.
      4. Start NOW if you haven’t!  Continue more and more if you have!
      5. Remind them as they grow up of their COMMAND to “obey your parents in the Lord”  and to “Honour thy father and mother”  Ephesians 6:1-2
      6. Don’t forget our patience has continued to decline with our age and bodies!
  • JOB STRESS:  A LOT of stresses are created by the economic necessity to do a kind of work you don’t enjoy doing in order to make a living.  Can I get an AMEN!  God wants us to enjoy the work we do because it is our way to represent HIM in the community and work force!
  • If we enjoy our jobs, they will become LESS stressful. 
  • If you are in an area you feel you are not gifted to do, then pray about this and seek God’s will! 
  • Is He calling you to something else?  Are you willing to work hard to make the change to capitalize on the gifts God has given you?
  • Stay focused on your job and career responsibilities.
  • Don’t get caught up in the politics and petty issues of the work place.
  • Remember our work ethic is a part of our testimony!
  • Develop the mental and spiritual ability to put an invisible boundary between your workplace and your home life. – Treat our home like our Sanctuary!
  • PUBLIC STRESS:  Long lines at the airport, grocery store, WALMART; national and world politics, taxes all lead to extra stressors on our lives!
  • We need to be filled with the love of God. 
  • Romans 13:9  “…thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself”
  • I Corinthians 13  No matter how displayed our faith may be- if we don’t have love we can be useless to God’
  • Show Christ as well as we speak Christ.
  • We need to be tolerant (when it does NOT conflict with Scripture) of those who differ from us so that we can be in a position to reach them.  Tolerance has become a BAD word today.  It doesn’t have to be.
  • Matthew 11:19 Jesus was a friend of sinners.
  • Are we willing to engage in relationships/communication with those who believe differently (or don’t believe at all) in order to win them to Christ?
  • We need to have and practice Patience.
  • Tolerance and Patience are works of grace that keep us from having a meltdown!
  • They help us to contain the pressures and stresses of every day life.
  • CHURCH STRESS:  Stress at our Church???? YES.
  • Just like life, work, family, marriage, public.  There is stress in church.
  • Recognize people are hurting (like we may be) around us in our church family.
  • Our Church is made up of individuals (like us) who have many of the same stressors we do on a daily basis.  Maybe even more than us at times!
  • Remember that no one is perfect.  NO ONE – not even us.
  • Realize that you can’t do it all by yourself AND you can be on every committee, project, ministry that there is and do a good job.
  • Choose and commit to those things that God is leading you to do and that you are gifted for – AND DO THEM WELL.
  • Don’t try to do everything – burn out WILL happen.
  • When we have overloaded ourselves with church work, it will affect our marriage, family, work, and public ministry.
  • What’s the Conclusion?????
  • Rejoice even when we are in difficult circumstances!
  • Pray so that worry is abated.  “People who pray tend not to worry.  People who tend to worry, often forget to pray.  It’s really that simple”
  • Think – take responsibility!  We can think on positive or negative things.  When we focus on God, He becomes bigger and our problems become smaller.

 

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